Ahhhh relationships! THE BEST THING EVER! While also being one of the most complicated things to tackle!
This is for all those girls out there (& any guys who fancy a read) looking for some advice or just wondering about the answers to some of the most common relationship questions. I know so many of us have probably thought about one if not a number of these questions that I’m gonna talk about. I was chatting to one of my old friends before writing this post and we were chatting away as us girls do. It got me thinking and I thought I would share some of the questions we were asking ourselves.
What is the most important thing for a relationship to be successful?
I know so many people would have a one answer for this. However this is me guys, of course I don’t have one answer haha. Yes some are a lil more important than others but they all still play a part.
Communication is key! Which can actually be pretty difficult sometimes. Especially when naturally as people we get our back up when we hear someone saying something negative towards us. I think it’s important in a relationship to just accept that sometimes your significant other is going to be annoyed with you, or not like what you say or whatever the problem may be. The important thing is that all this is okay! As long as you express this rather than keeping it to yourself (trust me it’s in the long run when you just say what you are feeling/thinking) and talk about it. Or at least agree to disagree while not holding a grudge.
Communication doesn’t have to be about negatives though guys. I am an absolute sucker for a chat about the future and a lil cringe chat about how much they mean to you. This helps a relationship so much because it makes for some amazing daydreams haha and it’s a nice little reminder that both of you are in it for the long run.
Laugh and laugh a lot. I love this! I think it is so important to have a laugh with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Even if half the time it’s you laughing at the crazy things they do. Having fun is going to be one of the things that keeps the relationship exciting! You make so many memories, create so many inside jokes when having a laugh. Those inside jokes/memories you’ll both think about months/years down the line and just smile because at that moment you were both so happy.
Just be mature. I know that is so vague to say. However before getting all annoyed with your partner over something so silly, just think to yourself is it really that deep? I have done this before in past relationships and I’ve decided it was that deep (when it really wasn’t), so I’ve gone in a mood. This gets you NOWHERE! I’m sure Elliott would agree that I do it sometimes now, especially if I’m in a bad mood. I try my best not to though because it’s so pointless (haha it’s really stupid tbf). It just stops us having fun together and enjoying our time with each other.
Do you believe in the one?
Personally I don’t really believe in “the one”. I believe that everyone has more than one person in the world that brings out the best version of them and who would make them happy. However it’s who out of those people comes into your life first. I prefer “the one” being like your perfect match. Not strictly the person you were destined to be with. In my eyes this is someone you feel a connection with straight away and your personalities just a-line really nicely. They will bring out the best version of you like you will for them. I guess that is you kind of finding “your one”, but I don’t strictly believe we all have only one person out there for us. Otherwise surely we could be searching forever for “the one” right?
What is the best way to deal with a break-up?
Let’s be honest there probably isn’t a best way is there? Break-up’s are just crap. However there are a few things that you can do to make things slightly more bearable. First thing I would say is surround yourself around people who care about you, people you can have a real good laugh with. Do not stick on that playlist full of all the Ne-yo and Usher throwbacks! That won’t make you feel any better. I know it’s been said so many times, but really just accept that you’ll be better of without them. You’ll be a stronger person in the long run. Trust me, we have all been there. It’ll be hard and you’ll want to lock yourself away but DON’T you’ll be okay soon enough!
How do you express your frustrations in a relationship?
TALK TALK TALK! This is similar to my advice about communicating. The other person doesn’t have to like what you say. However as long as you say what’s annoying you and why. You don’t even really need to have a big discussion about it just letting the other know is enough. Unless it’s something silly chances are they will take it on board anyway.
If it’s something that is a pretty big thing (Uno one of those “we need to talk” times, yeah them ones) then you just need to know what you’re trying to say and just make sure they understand how it makes you feel. Really if they cared about you enough and loved you they would understand and hopefully something would be figured out. If not then you kinda need to ask yourself why your with them if they aren’t prepared to accept that they have hurt you or whatever.
Overall, everyone has different advice/views when it comes to relationships and that’s okay! These are just my answers to these few questions. I hope this helps some of you, or even makes you look at things differently! I would love to know what your thoughts are so let me know!
All in all just be happy and make lots of memories because life is too short for stress and arguments!